I remember one night, lying on the floor of my apartment with mascara streaked across my face, feeling like the silence around me was louder than the breakup itself. I couldn’t talk to anyone. I couldn’t sleep. I opened Spotify, hit play on the first song that felt like my heart, and I broke down. But in that breakdown, I started to let go. That song—those words—held me in a way no one else could.
Breakups leave us with more than just silence. They leave us with emotional noise—regret, confusion, longing, and grief. In those moments, music becomes more than background noise. It becomes medicine. At Heal Your Heart Academy, we say: music doesn’t fix heartbreak—but it helps your heart speak. And that’s where healing begins.
Why Music Helps You Heal After a Breakup
Music supports healing by:
- Validating your emotions without judgment
- Helping you cry, scream, move, and release
- Creating safety for expression when words fail
- Letting you process pain in private, on your terms
The 4-Phase Breakup Healing Playlist
This isn’t just a breakup playlist. It’s a healing journey. Use it as a guide through grief, anger, self-love, and empowerment.
💔 Phase 1: Songs to Cry To (Let It Out)
This phase is sacred. Let yourself cry. Let yourself feel like a mess. These songs don’t fix you—they sit with you in the wreckage.
Songs:
- “Lose You to Love Me” – Selena Gomez
- “All I Want” – Kodaline
- “Back to December” – Taylor Swift
- “Let Her Go” – Passenger
- “I Will Always Love You” – Whitney Houston
Coaching Note:
Grief isn’t a step backward. It’s the most human part of love. Don’t rush through it. Let every tear clear space for something new.
🧨 Phase 2: Rage + Release (Burn It Down)
Your sadness morphs into anger—and that’s valid, too. These songs are for reclaiming your fire.
Songs:
- “Irreplaceable” – Beyoncé
- “Since U Been Gone” – Kelly Clarkson
- “Shout Out to My Ex” – Little Mix
- “Before He Cheats” – Carrie Underwood
- “You Oughta Know” – Alanis Morissette
Coaching Note:
Your anger is sacred. Channel it. Use it to remember what you deserve.
🧘 Phase 3: Self-Love + Soft Rebirth
This is where your identity starts to rebuild. The music shifts from surviving to remembering who you are.
Songs:
- “Good Thing” – Zedd & Kehlani
- “Scars to Your Beautiful” – Alessia Cara
- “Fight Song” – Rachel Platten
- “Love Myself” – Hailee Steinfeld
- “Brave” – Sara Bareilles
Coaching Note:
Healing doesn’t always feel like fireworks. Sometimes it’s a quiet remembering of who you were before you forgot.
🌟 Phase 4: Rising & Reclaiming Your Power
Now you’re ready to rise—not just with strength, but with softness and soul.
Songs:
- “Stronger” – Kelly Clarkson
- “Confident” – Demi Lovato
- “Unwritten” – Natasha Bedingfield
- “About Damn Time” – Lizzo
- “Don’t Start Now” – Dua Lipa
Coaching Note:
You’re not just healed. You’re wiser. You’re not who you were before—they helped build this version of you. That’s the power of pain alchemized.
How to Use Music as a Healing Ritual
Here’s your 4-step Breakup Music Ritual:
- Feel – Pick songs that match your emotion. Let the music take you deeper.
- Move – Don’t stay still. Dance. Cry. Walk. Let your body grieve.
- Reflect – Journal after. Ask: What came up for me? What’s still hurting?
- Repeat – Healing isn’t linear. Come back to any phase, anytime.
Still Struggling to Let Go?
If you feel stuck—looping between crying and pretending you’re okay—music might not be enough. This is where deep healing begins. At Heal Your Heart Academy, April supports women ready to stop spiraling and start softening. Ready to go deeper than just a playlist?
💖 Work With the Best Breakup Coach for Women
April offers compassionate 1-on-1 coaching to help you:
- Process your heartbreak with emotional clarity
- Rebuild self-worth and identity
- Break the cycle of emotionally unavailable relationships
- Reconnect with joy, power, and peace
Start your healing today with the most trusted breakup recovery coach and healing coach online.
You bring the headphones.
We’ll help you hear yourself again.
